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We’re not a religious family and we don’t thank God for our meals. We’re thankful for what we have but we tend to give thanks to a more tangible source. However, most of my family is religious and they pray before meals. When the kids were small we never worried about it. I would either inconspicuously, or if I was feeling hostile noticeably, miss the blessing. Other times I would give the kids a roll to chew on until they were done praising the lord for every little thing and hope they didn’t get brainwashed before it was over. When the kids were little I had a much stronger need to distance myself, and them, from religion. I grew up with that stuff and I didn’t want them drawn into it.

I realized my approach was wrong one day when when my youngest was about three. We were standing around while my brother said grace and when it was finished, just as everyone was about to say amen, she sat up real straight and shouted “I’m mad!” If you say that with a slight southern accent you’ll get why she said that. She thought that was what everyone was saying. It was funny and we all laughed but I knew ignoring religion wasn’t going to be the best approach.

I wasn’t an educational anarchist yet, but I was well on my way. We started with Greek Mythology, threw in some Native American Myths, rounded it out with Celtic and Norse Gods. I think we threw in a bit of Egyptian beliefs. By the time we got to Christian fables a few years later, they had no problem understanding exactly what I wanted them to understand. I felt a lot better about my choices as well.

One of Oldest’s friends was over last week and she told her that her mom said not to talk about religion with her friends because everyone doesn’t believe in the same thing. I’ve told my kids almost the same thing. I think that sucks. I tell my kids that everyone has right to believe in whatever they feel is best for them, unfortunately so many people around here don’t feel the same way. My resentfulness and anger is returning.

My youngest told me that she just pretends she believes what her friends believe because she doesn’t want to fight with them. My oldest gets in arguments because people get frustrated when she matter-of-factly states that she doesn’t believe that. I’m just sitting here alternating between “Fuck ‘em all”, “Why, oh, why can’t we just get along”, and “Let it be. They’re smart kids and they’ll work it out”.

I’m not sure what to do, if anything. In the mean time, I have some books about evolution and world religions on hold at the library. I’ll pick them up Friday.

Given the choices that I have made, both in how I choose to live my life and how I educate my children, people would expect me to have many battles to fight. This is not the case. I live very peacefully. This is mostly due to my great denial skills and my “I appreciate your opinion but this is my life” attitude. As some of you may already know, I do have one area of strife in my life and I can’t seem to shake it. No, it is not my tomato fetish. I’m over that. Mostly. The thorn in my side is and always has been the fundies.

They swarm me at the grocery store, they put flyers in my mailbox, and they buzz around my ears with opinions that scare me. I’m not even going to mention the aesthetics of a denim jumper. I’ve put up with it for years and have alternated between anger, frustration, and pity. But I have grown and matured (a little) and today I find the whole fundie belief system has become a slight nuisance. Nothing more, nothing less. But, I do reserve the right to verbally attack when they push me too far.

So, today I sorted through mail and found a flyer for the hazardous waste collection day at our local landfill. I scanned the listed items and about half way through my jaw dropped and my eyes opened wide. I couldn’t believe what I saw.

FUNDICIDE!

They were collecting fundicide – a substance used to destroy or inhibit the growth of irrational fundamentalism. (Definition taken from my imaginary dictionary) I didn’t even know this stuff existed. Why has no one ever told me about this stuff? I could have put it to good use.

I was gonna make a picture to go with this but I’m not in the mood. Maybe later. Maybe not. I just checked and I haven’t made a picture for anything since July. I suck.